through this journey of losing my daughter and the grief we go through daily minute by minute, many times
we have had others say “oh I know I lost my Mother ,Father, sister, brother etc.”
that is a tragic loss and the pain is great the grieving hard no denying it.
But I can not see in my heart ache how that type of loss (and I have suffered each
of these four times ,can possibly compare to the heart ache, heart wrenching the
hole it leaves in your heart and soul and mind that losing a child you have given life to
can even be remotely comparable.
I do not wish to offend or insult anyone and their grieving but as they say “until you
have (God Forbid) walked in these moccasins don’t presume to know”
The agony, the heart-break is recurring, each time there is a moment of silence, a song
a phrase, a child in the grocery calling out for “momma” to give that mule kick to the stomach
heart stopping, losing your breath feeling of the first knowledge of the loss.
Please understand our grief is real and especially if you’re the mother as you have carried that
little body for nine wonderful months giving life force with every breath every bite or drink of
nourishment. You were the first to offer nourishment upon that child’s birth, you nurture, and
cherish each breath that child has takes; you hurt when they hurt you laugh when they laugh. Just
please please don’t compare and if you haven’t lost a child I pray you never do. God Bless.